STUDENT/TEACHER SEX

Theodore — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 03:24:08 +0000

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Why Teachers Take Advantage of Their Students

It seems there is an epidemic of teachers having sex with their students. Every time you turn on the television or open a newspaper there are more sick stories of this occurring. Some teenagers think that this is probably awesome if they happen to have an attractive teacher, but most of the stories we read involve gross, older teachers taking advantage of needy children. Unfortunately, we only hear these stories when one of these people actually gets caught. There are many reasons why these disgusting acts are committed and we’re afraid to say they’ll probably never stop regardless of the media attention these stories generate. Let’s take a look at how this phenomenon perpetuates itself in our nation’s schools:

Teachers are already in control. Teachers are in a position where students are supposed to listen to them. The majority of students, whether they care to do well in school or not, recognize the control a teacher has over a class. This places the teacher in a far different position than high school students’ other love interests: each other. Teachers are not peers of the students which makes this a dangerous two-way street. While students are typically too young (under 18) to be making a legal decision they are drawn to having a sexual relationship with a teacher or someone older. Teachers that are driven to have sex with their students are people that have trouble dealing with their control and something clicks in their heads that it is okay to do whatever they want with their students.

They prey on the vulnerable student. Teachers are in a position on a daily basis to see their students and how they interact with other students. When a preying teacher notices a student with poor self-esteem this student moves to the top of the list. The vulnerable student feels compelled to please the teacher and often won’t admit to what happened out of fear of continued embarrassment.

They’re attracted to them. Some of these stories are just as simple as one person being attracted to another and they don’t fear the consequences because their attraction is too strong. Ridiculous? Of course it is but these people have problems to begin with and if they meet someone they are into then they’re going to act on their impulses. They view these relationships like any others they’ve had in life and refuse to see the harm they’ve done to the student and their families.

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This post was contributed by Heather Johnson, who writes on the subject of best online degree. She invites your feedback at heatherjohnson2323 at gmail dot com

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WHY ARE MOST OF THE GUILTY TEACHER FEMALE?

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SEX WORTH KILLING FOR?

Teacher Pamela Smart http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pamela_Smart#cite_note-kerr4-2

RAPE?

Teacher Mary Kay Letourneau http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary_Kay_Letourneau

NEW YORK TIMES

Teacher-Student Sex Said to Be Not Unusual

By CAREY GOLDBERG

Published: May 21, 1995

The girl liked her teacher from the moment she stepped into his remedial class. When he treated all his students to chocolate bars one day, her affection for him, for his genial ways and hard muscles, flared into desire. When he offered extra credit to anyone who helped him mark papers, she jumped at the chance. She flirted and flirted. Then one day he made a move.

“We were looking at each other in the elevator from the basement to the third floor, and it goes really slow,” she said. “And we just kissed right there. When you’re a sophomore and you’re with a teacher, your head goes crazy. I was in ecstasy.”

The girl, a Richmond Hill High School student, is almost a year older now, and perhaps wiser than she should have to be. After an entire school year of secret romance, “I got my heart broken,” she said. “He only wanted to have a good time, and after that it’s bye-bye.”

If she has any consolation, it is that she is far from alone. She has company in thousands of other girls and boys across the country who have been sexually involved with teachers.

The most notorious recent example is Christina, the 15-year-old East Harlem girl who crossed the country with her former gym teacher. He has since been charged with kidnapping her. Prosecutors have considered charging Mr. Harris with statutory rape, but that charge may never emerge if prosecutors cannot prove that the couple had sex in New York. The teen-ager has said their relationship became intimate only after the two began their odyssey across the country.

“Sex between teachers and students is much more common than people are willing to acknowledge,” said Charol Shakeshaft, a Hofstra University professor and co-author of a four-year study on school sexual abuse that appeared this March in Phi Delta Kappan, an education journal.

Despite its frequency, teacher-student sex is always wrong, educators said, a betrayal of trust that is harmful to the student and indicative of an emotional defect in the teacher.

A vast majority of teachers never molest their students and would never take advantage of a child’s crush, researchers and school officials said. But Ms. Shakeshaft’s study quoted findings that up to 5 percent of teachers engage in some form of sexual abuse of students, from inappropriate verbal flirtation to intercourse. A nationwide survey in 1993 by the American Association of University Women found that nearly 15 percent of 8th to 11th graders, 25 percent of girls and 10 percent of boys, had been sexually harassed by a staff member.

The most striking statistics come from a 1991 survey of students at a North Carolina high school, published in The Journal of Education Research, in which 13 percent of graduates said they had had sex with a teacher.

That 13 percent may be exaggerated, Ms. Shakeshaft said, but she said that students tended to be more accurate reporters of sexual contact than are teachers or principals, who often try to cover up the incidents.

In New York City, 110 cases of school sexual abuse have been reported since 1991, most of them concerning some kind of willing involvement by a smitten student.

Cases like Christina’s and the Richmond Hill student’s fall into the category of what Ms. Shakeshaft’s study called “bad judgment romance,” in which young male teachers become intimate with attractive older female students. Cases involving female teachers and male students, and homosexual liaisons, are much rarer.

“These abusers saw their actions as either harmless or romantic,” the report said. Ms. Shakeshaft estimated that “bad judgment” abusers outnumbered pedophiles — who seek work in schools to molest children — 2 to 1. She found that female victims in high schools most often looked mature for their age and had “bad girl” reputations.

As for the teachers, their inability to resist the temptations of young students indicates something deeply wrong emotionally, psychologists said.

Normally, said Bonnie Jacobson, a clinical psychologist and author of books on relationships, young children have a sense of being perfect and all powerful, but grow out of it at age 4. But teachers, therapists and others in a position of power who have never resolved that phase can start taking to heart the admiration they get from students and subordinates, and abuse it.

“They really use the person who’s giving that level of adoration,” she said. “It’s not always conscious, but it’s very destructive, very destructive.”

After Ms. Shakeshaft’s study came out, more than a dozen women wrote her to describe the pain they still felt over affairs, some of them years old.

“The pain is lifelong,” she said. “They never are able to overcome the sense of betrayal over what happened. And they wrote us about how they had trouble trusting, trouble believing, and trouble carrying on intimate relations as adults.”

In recent years, public discussion of sexual harassment in schools and universities has made teachers more aware than ever that they should not take advantage of students.

But at the same time, said Alvin Cooper, clinical director of the San Jose Marital and Sexuality Center, “The older man falls victim to Calvin Klein commercials with 14- or 15-year-old girls. The media make for a lot of sexual acting out in our society.”

The policy in the New York City schools is quite clear on the penalty for employees who sexually abuse students, regardless of age.

“There’s an absolute line,” said John Ferrandino, superintendent of New York’s high schools. “Any kind of dating and sexual relations is a violation. We bring you up on charges, we throw you out, we get you arrested if we can.”

School employees are required to report all suspected abuse cases immediately to investigators. Yet the affairs continue to occur at a steady rate, school officials said.

“There are very many relationship cases we never hear about,” said Regina Loughran, the special counsel handling Christina’s case for the Special Investigator’s office of the Board of Education. “Very often, you hear about it only if the relationship goes bad.”

Ms. Shakeshaft’s study found that the teachers most likely to fall into sexual relationships with their students were those who spent time with them individually or after school: coaches, counselors and teachers of drama, art, music and gym.

A sampling of recent relationship cases handled by Ms. Loughran’s office demonstrated that. A track coach, David Drummond, at Automotive High School in Brooklyn pleaded guilty to third-degree rape after having sex with a 15-year-old female student. Others accused of abuse were a gym teacher, Andre Cadet, at Julia Richman High School in Manhattan; several young school safety officers, and a couple of guidance counselors. One counselor, Roger Krubiner of Park West High School, was accused of persuading a girl to have sex with him and pose for nude pictures.

In Christina’s case, at least, her teacher, Glenn Harris, was apparently not playing with her. He ruined his career, spent all his money and tried to marry her.

Not all stories of teacher-student romance end as badly as hers, with the teacher facing criminal charges, but to educators, what Mr. Harris did was undeniably wrong.

“It might be a cute love story,” Mr. Ferrandino said, “But, it’s corny, but being a teacher is a sacred trust, and you have to handle it like that.”

STUDENTS CAN ONLY VISIT MY APARTMENT 2X2

I WEAR A WEDDING RING EVEN THOUGH I AM NOT MARRIED

WHEN STUDENTS WANT TO TALK AFTER CLASS THE DOOR REMIANS OPEN

I NEVER HAVE A PRIVATE DINNER OR MEETING WITH A STUDENT

Affair with Chinese Student Leaves American Behind Bars

Apr 07, 2009 Edited and translated by eChinacities.com Source: iFeng.com

http://www.echinacities.com/china-media/affair-with-chinese-student-leaves-american-behind-bars.html

Photo: iFeng

The young American English instructor at a certain English training college in Zhuhai, China’s southern Guangdong province got himself involved in a love affair with one of his students that all went horribly wrong the second he found himself dumped.

On hearing the news of the end of the relationship, John (not his real name) threaten the girl with publishing naked pictures he had taken on his phone, on the internet. He demanded RMB 100 thousand to destroy the naked pictures. Last week the Mid-level People’s Court of Zhuhai sentenced the American to 3 year’s imprisonment for blackmail. On completion of the sentence he will be removed from the country.

Upon having the sentence translated to him, the defendant broke down in his chair sobbing and begged the judge for the right to appeal for a lighter sentence. John even pleaded with the judge for a community service sentence, anything to avoid a Chinese jail. John is due for an appeal soon.

John, aged 22 moved to Zhuhai to work as an Oral English Instructor in 2008. It was there that he met Miss Luo and they struck it off straight away. On the evening of the 25th October John invited Luo to his apartment for a meal. According to the American’s testimony in court: “We had fun that evening and got on really well.” It was then that the couple made love. It was that night that while Luo was in the shower, John took photos of her on his mobile phone camera. One of the three photos he took showed her naked above the waist.

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John explained that when he took the pictures she knew all about them and didn’t refuse or mind them being taken. The next day Miss Luo left for Hangzhou, Zhejiang province on the other side of the country. The two of them remained in touch but after a short while Luo told John that she had a boyfriend in Hangzhou and that she wanted to break up. John felt that he had been cheated and swore to take his revenge on her.

On 30th November 2008 John contacted Luo via QQ and sent her one of the naked photos, tricking her by saying he had lots more naked pictures that she didn’t know about, as well video footage. John demanded Luo back or he would send the snaps and videos to others. But after some more discussions he agreed to accept RMB 100 thousand in exchange for the illicit material.

Moments later Luo called Zhuhai police and upon arriving at John’s apartment they made their arrest.

What do you think should be the final outcome for ‘John’? Let us know your opinion in the comments sections at the bottom of this page.

First Day Student Culture Shock

Theodore — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 00:31:37 +0000

The beginning of any new academic semester is fraught with inevitable required adjustments. The post-graduate students (pgs) are no exception. They are required to take one semester of oral English with a foreign teacher. Most pgs have had prior undergraduate experiences with this inconsequential course where the grade does not count and more often than not, the foreign teacher has a guitar and only knows how to teach English songs. The pgs have a very strong preconceived idea of what to expect from their oral English class.

As the pgs approach their 4^th floor oral English classroom they are confronted by a 200 cm x 200 cm banner.

They have no idea what “Chingland” means and “Chinglish Spoken Here” goes directly against and is directly opposed to their prior teaching that Chinglish is no good. This is the pgs first indication that something may be different.

As they approach the classroom door they look puzzled and double check the room number.

As the pgs open the door, their jaws drop, they freeze in position and get a “deer in the headlights” look. Again, they double check the assigned classroom number.

As they slowly enter the room there is a Chinese buzz. The foreign teacher actually looks like a real professor. The professor loudly announces, “This is an English class and this is an English classroom. Why am I hearing Chinese? If you want to practice your Chinese leave.”

A hush falls over the room. The pgs ask permission to be seated. The professor advises that those pgs who have brought their books and a writing utensil may be seated. All others must leave and never return unprepared again. Those who did not bring their books or writing utensils are told to leave but they remain frozen in time and space. The professor explains that coming to a pg class at China’s #8 most famous university is intolerable kindergarten behavior and the guilty students are ordered to leave.

Sometimes an entire first class must be cancelled and rescheduled at a punitive time.

On the very first day of the semester the professor draws the line in the sand and demands that the pgs act like mature, responsible, serious students or get out. They have never had such an experience in their prior 16 years of education. They are in shock!

Fortunately, the professor knows how to bring the pgs out of shock and within minutes the classroom is filled with laughter as everyone settles down to begin their semester of fun with English acquisition.

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